How do I tell Mary Lou?

How do I tell Mary Lou?

 

Thursday June 1, 2006

 

How do I tell Mary Lou about the decision to get a Lap Band?

 

 

Mary Lou, Mom, love her dearly, BUT..... she does have the Momism of over reacting a bit. I will be giving her this blog address, but I doubt she will be reading it, but if she does, this is an important posting.

 

I have seen Mom a number of times since Bubba introduced me to the Lap Band at the end of February. But I wanted to make sure I knew what I was talking about and that I had made a decision before telling her.

 

So, Mom- here is a timeline of when I was thinking about this-

 

March- I was still thinking about this. Spoke to Bubba and did much research. The initial meeting with the doctor was cancelled by Deaconess hospital, the second was cancelled by weather.

 

End of March- my cousin's 49 year old husband had a heart attack. Danny is not as overweight as me, but he does smoke. I would say that his diet is worse than mine, as I know I eat salads and veggies, whereas I know that a typical breakfast for Danny is biscuits and gravy. I know that I really have to do something, as my recent dieting has just kept me from gaining this winter, but no weight loss. Danny's heart attack is pretty much the moment where I say to myself "I've got to do something".

 

April- I tell Mom at Easter a bit about the doctor's appointments, and of the upcoming endoscopy for a hiatal hernia. Dad had a hiatal hernia, and he had tons of problems with it. I remember one horrible Christmas where the hiatal hernia ended up with him in the hospital and my mother in tears. Also, he died of stomach and esophagus cancer, which I think might have been related. While I ask that this endoscopy be PRIVATE, Mom tells many people including friends of mine in Lexington and Frankfort. So, at day two after the endoscopy and biopsies TWENTY PEOPLE KNOW, that I had no plan on ever telling. AARRRGGHH.   While it was nice that my friends called and wished me well, I would have rather just kept the whole thing quiet. Also, not being able to talk much for 10 days after the procedure, I really just wanted to stay at home, watch a few DVDs and NOT TALK TO ANY ONE anyways. Instead it was phone call after

 

May- Ok, I've made my decision. I'll tell her at Mother's Day. Nope. Didn't happen, Sister's husband announces he wants a DIVORCE and I figure Mom has enough on her table, I'll tell her when I go home the first weekend in June. Mom knows that I am having the hiatal hernia fixed and wants to come up. I just want to be left alone for a few days after and not talk to anyone. (Seeing a trend here yet folks?) The last thing I want is to have anyone cooking in my house when I'll be on Jell-o and broth for a week.

 

June- Well, it's here. I really need to tell Mom, as the potential date is just three weeks away. I've made three handouts of the Lap Band book. I'm printing out the web page for the blog and I'll tell her and my two sisters Sunday afternoon all at once.

 

Wish me luck.

 

JC