Mom Knows

How did the telling of mom and sisters go yesterday?

Monday June 5, 2006

Told them that I wished an hour on Sunday to sit down and tell them what I was having done.

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Both sisters had other plans, so unless Mary Lou tells them, they know nothing yet .


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I gave Mom the Lap Band book and two pages from my blog. Copies for both sisters provided as well.

She asked "Why are they MAKING YOU do this"?

I answered, "They are not MAKING ME, I am choosing a solution".

I then explained that this would be done at the same time and with the same surgery as fixing the hiatal hernia.

Strangely during Mary Lou Fest, she had pointed out two ladies she knows that had had gastric bypass in the last year. I pointed out the similar end results, but with a longer time window and showed her the 360 to 240 calculation done by me and the nutrionist. (BTW- that nutrionist left Deaconess, they have a new one that seems a bit nicer- the other was mean) I pointed out that the procedure is REVERSIBLE if anything ever goes wrong. One Bypass lady was eating constantly. Her overweight boyfriend had 24 cookies while we were at Churchill Downs. (I counted). I had TWO.

I told her of my new diet and how the timelines for recovery from the hiatal hernia surgery and this Lap Band Surgery were quite similar, and how in fact, having a Lap Band would make the Hiatal hernia surgery recovery EASIER as having a Lap Band provides a feeling of fullness, and if you are having difficulty eating while recovering from hiatal hernia surgery you would still feel empty (thus hungry) but with a Lap Band- that feeling is reduced.

I also pointed out that if I wasn't having hiatal hernia problems, I might have not chosen to do this, as I am a surgery wimp. But as they can do both at once, and it is already gonna hurt, I decided to go forth.

I then told her how things would change.

I had noted everything I had to eat this weekend and told her how it would have been different and then explained why.


Friday-
Now Lap Band

Lunch at Churchill Downs
Turkey with Apple butter Turkey with Apple butter
Ham Ham (might skip)
Potatoes
Rolls
Caesar Salad Caesar Salad
Green Beans Green Beans (might skip)
Bread pudding
2 cookies

I then pointed out that we had an appetizer of "Bourbon Cheese Dip". Depending on the time of the meal and the time of the appetizer, I might have just had some of that and some chips and skipped the ham and the green beans.

Saturday-

Breakfast
Three donuts Slim Fast Can

Lunch at Hard Rock Cafe
HUGE SALAD with chicken All the chicken and probably half of the salad

Dinner
12 ounce prime rib ( I ate 3/4) probably 3 ounces of prime rib
salad salad
baked potatoe
Derby Pie Maybe a bite, or take it for hours later.


Sunday-

Breakfast
Three donuts Slim Fast Can

Dinner
Bowl of Burgoo Bowl of Burgoo
BBQ Sandwich


We then discussed my, and my dad's, problem of NOT CHEWING ENOUGH. Dad often got things stuck, and post hiatal hernia- that happened A LOT. With a Lap Band- YOU LEARN TO CHEW CHEW CHEW!

We discussed how I thought, but could not prove, that Dad's cancer started where his hiatal hernia was.

We then discussed how Dad had a heart attack at 44. I am 43. Having inherited his hiatal hernia, I don't want to inherit that too.

We then discussed how I made my decision to go forth at the end of March when cousin in law Danny had his heart attack on his 49th birthday.

I then restressed THAT THIS IS PRIVATE. I told her she could ask her doctor if she had any questions. I rethought that as her usual doctor (NAME DELETED) is often a blabbermouth. She can ask Kathleen's doctor.
She asked if she could tell Mr. Poche- NOPE. I might tell Connie after.
She asked if she could tell Mrs. Powers- NOPE.
She asked if she could tell Aunt Jeannie- I would prefer it be AFTER, as once I am fixed, I might tell Danny..
She asked if she could tell Father John and friends- NOPE.
She had a few more names and my response was NOPE, NOPE and MORE NOPE.

After much more discussion I showed her my blog and all the research I had placed on it. I then spent an hour on trying to teach her how to use the computer.

When I left to return home, we hugged and she said she was glad I was trying to do something.